From MaryJoG via Rosey's posting service
Coming up on 5 months since John passed. Feel that I have turned a
corner in that it is not so raw. Still sob but can control it now. Will finish
a grief recovery group this week which has made a huge difference. Puts all in
perspective. Will always miss him but am getting on with life. It is time to
give back and I've come up with a project. I'd like to train volunteers
(hopefully those who have experienced grief a year or more back) to work with
the caregivers after a death. Hospice calls once a month but that doesn't begin
to cover needs. I'd like to work with Hospice the last month or so by meeting
with the caregiver while they do their tasks. Once extended family has left,
the volunteer would be there to walk them through the hard things: Social
Security, banking and all the accounts that had the deceased name on them which
have to be changed. Cannot tell you how difficult it was to return his cell
phone and have to give them a death certificate.. Had to change plans while I
came undone.... Now to find an agency who is interested. Hospice feels they
are doing enough so will look elsewhere.
Am spending two hours each morning and evening this week in the front
flower beds weeding, transplanting, pruning and taking out overgrown plants.
When they come out, I'm surprised to find something hidden and move it to the
front. Half of the new mulch is down. Hope it protects the plants better and
keeps in more moisture. 100s here for about 6 weeks now all is dry. Gave up in
back and took out the plants from the dozen pots. Soil was too hot for them and
no shade back there.. If I keep this place, will go to raised beds instead of
pots.
Half of the stash is in order in the shelves and 23 tote bags are emptied
and stored upstairs in the new quilt room. The tote bags were moved from AZ.
Lots of work left before it is functional.
Made reservations to fly to AZ mid September for a week to prepare that
home for sale. Will stay with a good friend. She has enlisted the guild to
help empty the quilt room for the donation. Hope to leave all but the personal
things intact and sell it ready to go for winter visitors. My son says I can
mail the new lazy boy recliners by taking the backs off. We only used them a
few months. He mailed one to Alaska.
MaryJo
posted by RoseyP @ 3:30 PM
2 Comments:
Dear Mary Jo, I'm so very sorry to read about the loss of your husband. Even if one knows the time is getting near, the loss can still be a shock. And you are correct, all the details to deal with after losing someone can be very difficult. Bless you for wanting to help others through that process.
I'm sending you lots of hugs,
Mary in Oregon
Thanks, Mary. Can use lots of hugs - sure miss them. Saw that you and Jill met up in Sisters for the show. Will try to go next year. (( ))s MaryJo
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